October 28, 2021

It’s All in The Break


        Finals are around the corner. Most of us are overworked, overwhelmed and overstressed.

In fact, the American Psychological Association said, “Two new meta-analytic studies, involving thousands of children and college students, show that anxiety has increased substantially since the 1950’s.”

Most college students suffer from stress and anxiety, but can you blame them?

Students must decide what they want to be for the rest of their lives, when they often don’t even know who they are yet – let alone – what they want to do for the next 50 years of their lives.

        Parents put so much pressure on students to become doctors, lawyers or something that will have them financially set for the rest of their lives. Yet, do parents ever realize that the stress of being perfect is too much? Even if parents tell their child they are going to be great, and they can do anything, this still puts pressure on them.

       Many children end up upset or with self-esteem issues because they feel they will never be enough for their parents.

Can you really expect that much out of someone who has been a child all their lives until they hit the age of 18?

We were given curfews, told what we could and couldn’t do, had to raise our hands to use the restroom for a simple human function, but now we are expected to be adults. No breaks, no leniency for simple mistakes, because now you are in the adult world and there is no room for any error.

        Many students must have a job, straight A’s in all six of their classes, be a part of clubs, and have a social life on top of that. If there are only 24 hours in a day, how can anyone be expected to be happy, when they have the pressure of perfection rested upon their shoulders?

        The American Psychological Association reported, “About one-third of U.S. college students had difficulty functioning in the last 12 months due to depression, and almost half said they felt overwhelming anxiety in the last year, according to the 2013 National College Health Assessment, which examined data from 125,000 students from more than 150 colleges and universities.”

        Students need to have less pressure put on them, because if it keeps going this way, more and more students will end up with depression or anxiety-ridden.

        To the all students that are feeling the pressure of the mid-semester, it is important that you take a moment to yourself.

People need time to take a break, State and local government professor Samuel Chen told me a story about a man, who was in the army, and had to learn how to make a right turn in an army tank at 90 MPH. The man goes out driving with his friend and tells him of his training and how he had to learn how to make this turn. While in a Prius, he showed him what he had learned. His friend, in awe, asked him how he was able to make the turn without flipping the car.

The soldier replied, “It’s all in the brake.”

        When you are stressed in school remember to take a break once and a while because homework, friends, parents, boyfriends or girlfriends can all become way too much to handle. Just sit back, clear your mind, take a deep breathe, relax and remember that you are young, just started school and have the rest of your life to figure everything out.

Failure is painful and sucks, but it is not the end of the world. Failure is another step closer to success. Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, Failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts”.  Remember to have the courage to get back up even when you fall because getting back up is what defines you and not the failure.


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